Self-Care Tips for after a Break-up

The time after a break-up can be a really raw time. It’s incredibly normal - whether you were the one "being broken up with" or "did the breaking up" - to feel utterly abandoned afterwords.  This is because the unconscious doesn’t know direction - it just knows that the person you call/text/sleep with/come home to [...]

By |2019-04-16T07:35:37-07:00April 16th, 2019|Tags: , |

How to Deal with Anxiety and Be More Assertive in Your Relationships

In the simplest terms, to assert oneself is to be able to identify and express one’s needs to another person. And while this quality may come naturally to some people, many find it much more difficult to practice and deal with anxiety around it.  This often comes up during relationship counseling sessions in our office. [...]

By |2019-03-05T10:16:16-07:00January 21st, 2019|Tags: , , , |

How To Remember A Loved One

Fall brings up happy memories for so many people with thoughts of back to school and the crispness in the air reminding us of the winter holidays just around the corner. But for many people grieving the loss of a parent, Fall can be a slow slide into the hardest time of the year. Losing [...]

By |2018-10-26T23:22:31-07:00October 26th, 2018|Tags: , , , |

Finding Hope in Your Relationship

When things are not going well with your partner, you can begin to feel hopeless and helpless as you go around and around with the same arguments that never seem to reach a resolution.  Overcoming these fears and walking into couples therapy for the first time can spark a feeling of hope that can [...]

By |2018-08-08T03:25:37-07:00August 8th, 2018|Tags: |

How to Communicate More Assertively

Many people struggle with assertiveness and asking for what they want. Yet, being straightforward is often a quality those same people revere most in others. If you find you struggle with communication, this article from The Cut has tips on how to begin being more blunt. Our social graces sometimes undermine our ability to be clear [...]

By |2018-01-26T10:47:41-07:00January 26th, 2018|Tags: , , , |

Resolving the Hedgehog’s Dilemma

In 1851, German philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer formulated what has been termed the "hedgehog's dilemma," a parable about human relationships and intimacy. The parable goes something like this: when it is cold outside, hedgehogs move towards one another in order to be warmed by each other's body heat. However, upon reaching a certain closeness to one [...]

By |2018-01-15T14:06:19-07:00January 12th, 2018|Tags: , , |

Cultivating Real Gratitude

Holiday season is nearly upon us. Thanksgiving is the first and potentially most contentious holiday, since it was expressly created for the purpose of being thankful. If you struggle emotionally around the holidays, you’re certainly not alone. Giving thanks over food and drinks can be problematic for some, or maybe you are still feeling a [...]

By |2017-11-13T21:08:08-07:00November 13th, 2017|Tags: , , , , , , , |

Go to therapy, even when you’re feeling good

If the thought of not using your therapy time as efficiently as your work time makes you nervous, you’re not alone. Many people begin therapy in times of crisis, when problems get to be so large and all-consuming that they need an outlet. Much of those early sessions are spent dissecting an issue, concentrating on [...]

By |2017-11-06T14:29:04-07:00November 3rd, 2017|Tags: , , , , , |

Using Anger Mindfully

Anger has become synonymous with political and cultural awareness, and outrage has turned into a defense against powerlessness. So the question is, how can you transform anger into workable energy? How can you mindfully channel anger in positive ways? Practicing equanimity in the face of what is happening today in the U.S. political arena and [...]

By |2017-11-03T08:17:06-07:00October 23rd, 2017|Tags: , , , , , , , |